You’re Not Too Much Anxiety and Love

Honestly, sometimes I feel like my anxiety is an uninvited guest in my relationship. I might seem clingy or needy because I ask for reassurance or overthink every little message. I catch myself freaking out over tiny things, a change in your tone, a silence that feels longer than it should, or a small disagreement. And honestly? I would rather not feel this way. I don’t want my mind to twist things, but I can’t always stop it.

What’s wild is that these fears aren’t just in my head. Studies show that nearly 40% of people with anxiety feel unworthy in relationships, like love is something they have to earn. That pain, that doubt, it’s real. It’s hard not to feel it, especially when past experiences whisper to us that we’re not enough.

And I’ve learned something important. Anxiety doesn’t listen to reason. It finds the cracks, a silence, a text delay, a moment when you seem distant and it makes me believe I’m losing him. Even when logically I know that isn’t true, my anxious brain insists otherwise.

That’s why I ask for reassurance, not because I don’t trust him, but because I struggle to trust myself. I want to feel safe and loved without needing constant validation. When he say, “I appreciate you,” it’s like a lifeline. It reminds me I’m already enough, I don’t need to prove anything.

Talking about such issues helps us both. When I share my fears and explain what’s happening inside my head, I hope it helps him understand me better, and teaches me to be kinder to myself. Because love isn’t about having it perfect or never feeling anxious. It’s about accepting each other’s messiness and working through it together.

So if you ever feel overwhelmed by your anxiety, know you’re not alone. The truth is, we’re all a little broken, and that’s okay. Loving someone doesn’t mean they’re “too much.” It means you see their worth, even when their fears try to tell them otherwise.

A peaceful lake reflects the surrounding trees, symbolizing calmness amidst chaos.

Let’s remind each other: We are worthy of love. We are enough just as we are, anxiety and all. And loving ourselves, and each other, is the real journey.

Tips for Dealing with Anxiety in Love

• Be kind to yourself. It’s okay to feel this way.

• Talk openly with your partner. Share what you need.

• Take deep breaths or use grounding techniques when anxious thoughts come up.

• Challenge one anxious thought each day.

• Reach out for help from a therapist if needed.

• Repeat positive affirmations like "I am enough" or "Love is safe."